This Mother’s Day, join us in celebrating the strong and compassionate moms who come to SHALVA seeking a better life for themselves and their children. Whether they choose to stay in the relationship or to leave, they often blame themselves for the abuse. At SHALVA, they have a safe, non-judgmental place to talk and learn about self-compassion and that abuse is never their fault.
When Becky decided to leave her emotionally and verbally abusive husband, she packed up her three children, an infant and three year-old twins, and moved back to her parent’s home. While there, she contemplated divorce, but also realized that she wanted to understand her abusive relationship so she could break the cycle and give her children a loving and caring home.
Seeking support and finding peace
Becky saw a SHALVA flyer in the women’s bathroom of a local kosher restaurant. She decided to call and soon began to explore patterns of abuse with her therapist. As a result, Becky increased her sense of self, and gained the confidence she needed to take control of her life. She is now divorced and has come into her own as a single parent. She is also on a path to financial independence with her own business. Recently Becky began to date again and is confident she will be able to recognize the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.
“We are good to each other in this family.”
Becky is hopeful, supported and no longer isolated. She is a wonderful role model for her children and is teaching them to be good to each other and to listen respectfully to each other. Most importantly to Becky, her children are happy and thriving, and they are looking forward to celebrating her on Mother’s Day.