Our 2022 luncheon speaker Stephanie Land, author of the memoir Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother’s Will to Survive will be discussing the challenges she faced when she left her partner with her small child.
Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy. Survivors talk about their fear of leaving when they come to SHALVA. There are plenty of things to be afraid of, such as the fear of losing their money, their home, their children, or their pets. They also talk about the fear being alone, which is reinforced by the abuser telling them that no one else will love them. Some SHALVA clients do decide to stay, and SHALVA helps them develop coping skills, build boundaries and understand warning signs.
Obstacles to Leaving
For those who make the decision to leave, survivors may face a set of barriers, including:
Where do I find a job when I have not worked in years because my abuser would not allow me to work outside the home?
How will I find childcare so I can go to work?
Will I be accused of being a bad parent because I send my kids to daycare?
How can I afford a place to live if I can’t find a job?
We hope you can join us on Thursday, June 23 at noon for our virtual event to learn more about Stephanie Land’s experiences, the obstacles to leaving and to support survivors of domestic abuse.