Supportive:
“I’m so sorry that this is happening to you.”
“This must be so hard for you.”
“I’m glad you told me. I’d like to help.”
“The abuse isn’t your fault.”
“I’ll keep what you said confidential.”
“You deserve to be safe.”
“You don’t have to deal with this alone. There are resources available for you.”
Harmful:
“Are you a victim of domestic violence?”
“What was your part in the fight?”
“Why did you get involved with him?”
“Why didn’t you just leave him?”
“You should really get a good attorney.”
“Why didn’t you call the police or get a restraining order?”
“You’re a smart woman, why do you stay?”
You can always call SHALVA if you need assistance.