We’re glad you’re here.
Show You CARE walks you through a series of questions to reflect on a specific situation you've noticed to help you help someone you care about. Based on your responses, you’ll be shown 2-4 short videos that will help give you ideas, words, and tools to make a difference and show you care.
This is not a quick fix. Because in these situations, there are no easy answers. Expect to spend about 15 minutes going through the whole process.
At the end, you’ll be asked to share a bit about what was helpful, and what other support you may need.
Reaching out for support can be difficult in itself. The following video shows why this can be so hard, and how important it is to reach out not only on behalf of your friend, but to help you as well. Select 'next' below to watch the video.
Whatever you’re feeling, you’re not alone.
If you ever need it, know that SHALVA is here for you, too.
Whatever you’re feeling, you’re not alone. Help is here for you, too.
If you’d like to connect with a SHALVA staff member now, please dial 773-583-4673.
From here, it would be helpful to know more about what you’ve noticed that brought you here.
Abuse takes many forms. It’s important to be able to recognize it for what it is, and name it. Watch the following video and reflect on the situation that's concerning you.
Once we’re able to name what we’re seeing, we’re better equipped to respond to it.
How should you speak to your friend about your concerns?
Tell us a bit about how you’ve spoken to your friend about this situation, if at all.
Abusive relationships are, at the heart, all about power and control. Understanding that dynamic, and the role you can play for the person you care about, is key to showing you care.
It is tempting, and understandable, to want to “save” someone from a bad situation. But it is more effective to listen, support, and gently guide your friend, and to use language that shows you respect their choices.
The biggest question then becomes: what’s next? What practical things can I do to help?
People and relationships are complicated, and getting out of an abusive relationship doesn’t usually happen all at once. So, showing you care takes patience.
Unless your friend is in clear and present danger, helping them take small steps, gradually, is the most effective approach. The following video shows one perspective on how you can show up and help your friend feel safe, supported, and ready to make a change, little by little.
We’re coming to the end of the Show You CARE process. We’ve just got a few short questions to understand your experience here, and how we can help moving forward.
Thank you for reaching out. You've taken an important step.
Know that SHALVA is here for your friend, but also for you. Please get in touch here if you’d like to speak to a therapist about this situation, or any other questions or concerns you might have.
Below we’re sharing a number of other resources that you may find useful as you continue to support your friend.
Thank you for showing you care.