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How to Talk to Kids About Relationships

  1. Remember
  • It’s up to you, not their friends or the media, to educate them
  • Begin the conversations BEFORE they start having romantic relationships
  • Educate yourself about the difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships
  • You can influence but not control your child
  • Be clear about your values with your child and lead by example

2. Teach

  • The difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships
  • That assertiveness is good but aggressiveness isn’t
  • How to express all types of feelings, even anger, in a healthy way
  • Consent

3. Open Communication

  • Take them seriously
  • Listen – don’t lecture, judge or criticize
  • Ensure confidentiality
  • Be patient; don’t force issues
  • Be honest
  • Remind them that you’ll be there for them, no matter the situation

4. When They Talk

  • Say you’re happy they confided in you
  • Explore concerns together-you needn’t have all of the answers
  • Ask how they feel when they’re with their partner
  • Don’t criticize or say “you shouldn’t see ___anymore”
  • Support their strengths
  • Remind them that jealously isn’t love